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Good to hear from you WTH.

Vocalion, On one hand, your son may not have your genes. On the other, I doubt he would have turned out like he did without your love and guidance. It's said that hurt people hurt people. I think that's true. But it also means loved people love people. You've passed love down through 3 generations. That's a good legacy. Congrats on the great-GC. May you stay healthy enough to play with and guide him/her!

My mom had a special connection with our GS, and she lived long enough that GS remembers her.

Hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas. So odd thought today, or maybe realization is more accurate. The thought of her A's crosses my mind today I guess because it was due. But something struck me this time. I don't remember what it was that lead me to finding out what she was up to. I know the how, it was finding emails between her and AP 1&2. But I don't remember what prompted me to look at her email that day. I don't remember was I suspicious and looking, or was I in her email for some other reason and stumbled across an email that didn't seem right? I really don't recall. I can go into great detail of everything following my finding that first email including what many of them said verbatim. It just really struck me as odd that whatever the moments before my finding out we're I just don't remember. I guess maybe it's the shock was so great that it was obliterated by what I found.

Anyway, just wanted to share with people I knew would understand. Happy new year and may it be a better one for all of us.

So I did end remembering what I think the reason was that I had looked in her email that lead to my finding out about her A's. I think what made me remember was probably because I looked back to the first of my journal here. It didn't go back that far but it did trigger me and brought a lot of feelings I had gotten past for a couple of days so not such a great idea. It did give me the idea though that maybe with wills and such (which we really need to do) I should add a little sealed envelope or something with my login information here and a note to read my journal so she can see what all that put me through. She probably wouldn't read it, and it might be a bit cruel so it's probably not a good idea.

I posted this in New Beginnings, but it should be here, I think.

The Universe patted me on the head and said "good boy"

I'm more than 10 years out from Dday. I don't come around here very often anymore, and unfortunately, I see a lot of new usernames in here.

I just wanted to pop in to share; XWW texted me to ask if I ever thought about getting back together because she does.

I managed to keep the petty little demon in me in check, and responded "No, I don't. I think we are a mismatch. I think we're doing a good job raising the kids, and I am content with the way things are."

I have 2 years to go until retirement (with my full pension and retirement assets) and the house the kids were born in, which I got by acting quickly to set her free to her new lover. Now, she's got a string of ex-boyfriends, is no longer as desirable as she once was (since there's no depth to her personality at all), and is pining to get back together with the controlling, boring, uncaring monster she cheated on.

I think I'll go on a little vacation next week with my new love. Me.

I salute you sir. You handled that with style and grace. Here's to you living your best life - without her.

You are a better man than I am, ChangeMaker. I would have replied to my XWW with a laughing gif and said nothing else

'Sup, y'all. About to be 10 years out from D-Day. Just checking in to say life is good, and things get better with time and therapy. Hang in there, there's a lotta guys pullin' for ya round here.

What was the worst, most hurtful thing your WW said to you during her affair? Does it still haunt you?

I was going to put this in general, but I thought I will put it here first because this thread has been inactive for a long time.

One night after she had left us, we were talking on the phone mainly about our boys. She was having them for the weekend. During the conversation I am not sure how it came up. This was over 25 years ago, and she said we didn't have a good sex life. This obviously was news to me because she had never complained before and I always went the extra mile in this department or at least I thought I did and it was also in the middle of me doing the pick me dance so this comment really hit me hard as it would to any male.

What gets me is we weren't fighting on the phone at the time we were actually having a good civil conversation and I at the time and I thought I was talking some sense into her, so it wasn't an angry outburst.

I hung up and walked out to my garage that night to get a rope if it hadn't been for my son's being home sleeping in bed. I am not sure whether I would still be here today.

That's the only thing that snapped me out of it, the thought of them finding me in the morning I could never do that to them.

This is the most horrible and hurtful comment that anyone has ever said to me in my 65 years of life.

It has come back to me full force during my recent triggers. (my oldest son has left his wife for a work colleague).

Infidelity sucks.

[This message edited by fhtshop at 3:15 PM, Thursday, August 21st]

I guess the most hurtful was the stupidest, so that mitigated the pain It was my saying she bought sort of an engagement ring for ow because our state didn't recognize same sex M at the time.

I once was very close to suicide, although my method was to walk out into traffic. What kept me from doing it is that I did not think I could do it without making my W and son think that they bore some responsibility somehow.