Rather than thread-jack the referred to thread, I decided to start a new thread on this issue.
It’s basically a Public Service Warning regarding sharing digital content.
On a recent thread in JFO the BH shares how his wife distributed a recording of OM, displaying his flaccid member at rest after a busy night to her four friends.
Maybe the content was made with his knowledge, maybe distributed with his acceptance. Or maybe not.
But what if it was recorded without his knowledge and/or acceptance?
What if one of the five digital accounts is hacked? Or one of the five phones lost? What if that content gets distributed online? What if OM is recognizable and this costs him financially and/or emotionally?
Not that I care about OM or the WW...
But imagine this scenario:
Mrs. Jones has an affair and sends her AP a recording of them having sex. The AP does as the wife in the referred thread and shares his conquest with some friends. Somehow that recording ends up on one of the gazillion sites that thrive on this sort of voyeur/amateur/MILF genre of porn. A week later, Jones Jr. comes home crying from school because everyone is laughing about how they have seen his mom moaning while getting pounded. Or everyone at church looks funny at the Jones, or Mr. Jones friends stop laughing and turn silent when he enters the room.
It doesn’t have to be that AP shares content. Can also be a stolen phone, hacked account, careless data management... Doesn’t have to be intentional, but it can happen.
I guess if you are divorcing and don’t have kids then this is a "them" issue. But if you are trying to reconcile and/or have kids... I think action is required.
Content can’t be unsent. What’s been distributed has been distributed.
What can be done is to make it clear IN WRITING that whatever content was created and/or shared was for personal use and there is no acceptance of any form of use other than that. Any breach of that could and will lead to legal action and prosecution under revenge-porn laws and that it is advised to delete the content.
I would suggest this letter sent from an attorney’s office, and in a traceable way. That way the receiver is made clear that if something happens, they will be in the noose. Will AP comply? That’s not in our power. What becomes clear though is that IF content is distributed the track to limit the damage is known.
Of course, these are steps that the WS must take. We – the BS – can only suggest or require this step. Personally – I like to think I would make this a requirement to even consider reconciling, and if divorcing then be clear of the risk to the kids.
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Just over a decade ago I helped a friend get a recording of his daughter having sex removed off some of the (then) major sex-sites. She had allowed her BF to record them having sex, and some years later – long after they broke up – the recording found it’s way into all sorts of forums and sites. This was early-days of revenge-porn laws.
He was fortunate to get a good attorney who went directly to one of the major porn-sites. What could be shown was that the date of the recording was some months BEFORE her 18th birthday. Thereby making this content illegal and sharing it illegal.
That site pulled the recording off its platform and it seems like there is some universal classification that these sites adhere to. If site A (a major porn-site) removes a recording and classifies it as illegal, the other sites do so also. This resulted in the recording more-or-less disappearing off the internet in the next months. Not for moral reasons, but rather that they face criminal prosecution for distributing content with under-age participants.
The attorney shared that the ONLY way he got results was through the underage clause. That if it would have been a question of mutual consent and the girl 18 years and one day then this recording would still be up there. Might be different now with reccent law-changes.
That recording? Can still be found... Last time her dad and I talked about it (about 6 years ago) he shared that there seems to be a spike in searches for it each time she starts a new job or makes some life-change. She’s in her early thirties now and this is still haunting her.
[This message edited by SI Staff at 11:56 AM, Tuesday, August 19th]
